dear jln,
you bring up the curiously antiquated notion that (I paraphrase) "we are
sexual beings with sexual drives" in defence of the claim that not all
heterosexual sex is coercive. does this not sound strangely similar to
the oft-heard claim that men who rape "just can't help themselves"? or
that "she was asking for it, even if she said she wasn't, even if she
didn't know she was - look at how she was dressed"? It is precisely the
cosntruction of predatory male sexuality as a natural drive that is the
problem, and of course, if something is natural, how can it be wrong? And
perhaps you are not in the best position to know whether you are violent
during sex, or even what that might mean. Is this not a bit self-serving?
bye, malcolm
p.s. by the way, yes this does mean that i think all men should be gay.
you bring up the curiously antiquated notion that (I paraphrase) "we are
sexual beings with sexual drives" in defence of the claim that not all
heterosexual sex is coercive. does this not sound strangely similar to
the oft-heard claim that men who rape "just can't help themselves"? or
that "she was asking for it, even if she said she wasn't, even if she
didn't know she was - look at how she was dressed"? It is precisely the
cosntruction of predatory male sexuality as a natural drive that is the
problem, and of course, if something is natural, how can it be wrong? And
perhaps you are not in the best position to know whether you are violent
during sex, or even what that might mean. Is this not a bit self-serving?
bye, malcolm
p.s. by the way, yes this does mean that i think all men should be gay.